The main destructive factors of intimacy relationship

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1/24/20251 min read

1.Dominance of negative feelings. Including contempt, disappointment, and anger.

2. Hold a stubbornly negative view of your partner and relationship. One partner often labels the other with strong personal subjective judgements.

3. Unwillingness to accept influence. One party is preoccupied with the idea of two people winning or losing a conflict, making the roles of the two parties become antagonistic.

4. The imbalance between debt and power. There is always a book of emotional gains and losses in my heart that is constantly measured, and I am obsessed with rewards so that intimacy becomes overly utilitarian and vulgar.

5. A negative description of the past. The accumulation of experience and common experience of the two sides lack a positive approach to each other, forming a negative precipitation and even a superposition effect.

6. Unwillingness to repair. When faced with conflict, they are completely expressing each other's negative emotions, leaving only unnecessary quarrels.

7. Negative interpretation. That is, to “measuring a gentleman's heart with a petty man's scheming.

8. Over-generalization and enlargement. Generalization is often used when encountering things; it is usually to make a big fuss over a minor issue or overemphasize a thing.

9. The Four Horsemen in marriage relationship communication refer to criticism, defensiveness, contempt, stonewalling. Which refer to often breaking into the family and causing fatal damage to the marriage.